The world has been experiencing groundbreaking shifts in the dynamics of sex and love for a long time now, and there are a lot of great things that have come from this movement. After all, one of my goals is to free up human beings to express themselves in whatever way they see fit. The entire sexual liberation movement is part of this shift and has been essential. However, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t things that we must keep in mind in order for this movement to be as healthy as possible. This means addressing the possible negatives that can come along for women or men.
Currently, we are at a point now where the actual freedom of many individuals to be sexually free is at a higher level. They aren’t bound as much by the rules of religion, finance, and society. While there are still places that experience one or more of these sets of rules, in a general sense we are moving in the right direction.
The Current State
This freedom is not all bliss, clearly. While I am more than happy that the grasp of religion on sex is off of our backs, the loss is almost like a power vacuum. Like a regime whose leader is taken out, a new one wants to come in and take over. The old leader might have been bad, but that doesn’t mean the new leader is good.
This ‘new leader’ represents the freedom of action but in many cases, the loss of connection. What we have seen in modern America is a growing rift between the sexes. This has spilled over and created tension and distrust in things that are important; family, love, connection, yin and yang integration, etc. So my goal is to maintain the benefits of this new reality – the freedom of people to sexually express themselves – while reintroducing the good parts – family, connection between men and women, acceptance, innocence, and above all, love.
The thing is, we all innately want love. Often, the situations we find ourselves in are like a band-aid on top of that desire. It fulfills it like a drug.
Vision for the Future
A little while ago I posted an article titled Root Chakra Problems in a World of Lies, and the situation around sex is very similar to these lies we have. See, the lies that the world feeds us causes us to not trust anyone or anything, even ourselves. When we have no trust we have no room for the light of God to enter our being (and many other good things). The Constriction (25th Shadow) that it creates is the opposite of Universal Love (25th Siddhi).
Universal love is SO IMPORTANT to me. It is my radiance. It is something I am here to show the world. I am only beginning to see the beauty behind it but even that little pinch makes me giddy inside. My heart warms when I see and experience unconditional love. It turns colder when I see conditional love. Sadly, so many people have programs that say love can only be shared in this or that way. People get scared of what others will think if they want to love someone else the same way they love one person. Personally, my desire is to share love. I want to spread it far and wide. I don’t want to keep it for one person. But to be clear, my way isn’t the only way – for many, more selective strategies are good.
Here’s the deep, deep issue. I used to think that the hookup culture was so great. But there is a dark secret hidden in our subconscious relating to it. This secret is that a great deal of hookup culture pretends that love is being shared unconditionally, but in reality many of the participants leave it wishing they had more (better sex) – its almost like good sex is taboo, because if you were to share that level of sex, it would mean that you have an attachment. So we devolve into a hookup culture based on lust, not love. That is what creates the conditional state.
We are Scared of Love?
Yes, I said it. We are scared of love. But I also want to expand upon that. When I speak on love, I’m speaking to such a variety of topics. Straight men can and SHOULD be sharing love with each other – maybe through creativity, or even just conversation. The point is that it isn’t just physical intercourse – I see people totally constricted in EVERY way! Especially men.
Pure sex energy is very close to love. I would say that love is above it. But they might even be the same thing! I don’t really know. But the point is that when you share love with anyone, you are sharing sex energy. Like I mentioned with the root chakra problems, we have trust issues that go much deeper than just physical sex. People can barely open up to their animals anymore! Let along friends, family, lovers, etc.
So what it is for you? For me, I found that I had a lot of resistance to the idea that say, men and women can be happy and satisfied without marriage. It makes sense, especially after witnessing what a s***show the hookup culture it. I also had resistance to sharing love with male friends. Resistance to freely expressing myself by playing guitar around family.
You know what its like – you’ve been home alone with no one around before. You’ve had a glimpse of yourself unconditionally loving and expressing yourself. Even if it was just for a second. There is an old Irish proverb that sits in my bathroom, and it reads: “Dance as if no one were watching, sing as if no one were listening, and live every day as if it were your last.” What if you could be like that around anyone?
Love,
Ryan